第 13 节
作者:暖暖      更新:2021-02-24 22:59      字数:9322
  with mental pain; men seek relief or pleasure or both by alcohol; drugs; sensual pleasures of all kinds; and that the secret explanation of all such habits is that they offer compensation for some pain and are turned to at such times。 What one man seeks in work; another man seeks in religion; another finds in self…flagellation; and still others seek in alcohol; morphine; sexual excesses; etc。 With the increasing excitement and tension of our times there is a constant search for relief; and here is the origin of much of the smoking。 Most men find in the deliberate puff; in the slow inhalation and in the prolonged exhalation with the formation of the white cloud of smoke; a shifting of consciousness from the major businesses of their mind; from a constant tension to a minor business not requiring concentration and thereby breaking up in a pleasurable; rhythmic fashion the sense of effort。 When one is alone the fatigue and even the pain of one's thinking is relieved by shifting the attention to the smoking。 Keeping one's attention at a high and constant pitch is apt to produce a restless fatigue and this is often offset to the smoker by his habit。 Excessive smoking may cause 〃nervousness〃 but as a matter of fact it is more often a means by which the excessively nervous try to relieve themselves。 Of course it is not good therapeutics under such conditions; but I believe that in moderation smoking does no harm and is an innocent pleasure。 Some of the pathological motor habits; such as the tics; often have a curious background。 The most common tics are snuffing; blinking; shaking of the head; facial contortions of one kind or another。 These arise usually under exciting conditions or in the excitable; sometimes in the acutely self…conscious。 Frequently they represent a motor outlet for this excitement; they are the motor analogues of crying; shouting; laughing; etc。 (Indeed; a common habit is the one so frequently heard;a little laugh when there is no feeling of merriment and no occasion for it。) Motor activity discharges tension and is pleasurable and these tics furnish a momentary pleasure; they relieve a feeling that some of the victims compare to an itch and the habit thus is based on a seeking of relief; even though that relief is obtained in a way that distresses the more settled purposes of the individual。 In the establishment of good habits; those desirable from the point of view of the important issues of life; training is of course essential。 But in the training of children; certain things must be kept in mind: the usefulness; the practical value must be presented to the child's mind in a way he can understand; or else various ways of energizing him to help in the formation of the habit must be usedpraise and blame; reward and punishment。 Further; these habits are not to be held holy; cleanliness and method are desirable acquisitions but not so desirable as a feeling of freedom to play and experiment with life and things。 If the child is constantly worried lest he get too dirty; or fears to play in his room because he may disorder it; he is forming the good habits of cleanliness and method but also the worse one of worry。 In the breaking of a bad habit; its root in desire and difficulty must be discovered。 Often enough a man does not face the source of his trouble; preferring not to。 I am not at all sure that it is best in all cases for a man to know his own weakness; in fact; I feel convinced to the contrary in some cases。 But in the majority of difficulties; self…revelation is salutary and makes an intelligent coping with the situation possible。 Here is the value of the good friend; the respected pastor; the wise doctor。 The human being will always need a confessor and a confidante; and he who is struggling with a habit is in utmost need of such help。 Shall the struggler with a bad habit break it with its thralldom? Shall he say to his chains; 〃From this time; nevermore!〃 To some men it is given to win the victory this way; to rise to the heights of a stubborn resolution and to be free。 But not to many is this possible。 To others there is a long history of repeated effort and repeated failures and thenone day there comes a feeling of power; perhaps through a great love; a great cause; a sermon heard; a chance sentence; or a bitter experience; and then; like a religious conversion; the tracks of the old habit are obliterated; never to be used again。 I have in mind two men; both heavy drinkers but differing in everything else。 One was a philosopher who saw the world in that dreadful; clear white light of which Jack London'1' spoke; that light which leaves no cozy; pleasant obscurities; in which Truth; the naked; is horrible to look at; when life seems too unreal; when purposes seem most futile。 At such times he would get drunk and be happy for the time being; and afterwards find himself bitterly repentant; though even that was a pleasure compared to the hollow world in which his sober self dwelt。 Then one day; when all his friends had given him up as hopeless; as destined for disaster; he read a book。 〃The Varieties of Religious Experience;〃 by William James; came to him as a clear light comes to a man lost in the darkness; he saw himself as a 〃sick soul;〃 obsessed with the idea that he saw life relentlessly and clearly。 There came to him the conviction that he had been arrogant; a conceited ass; bent on ruin; 〃a sickly soul;〃 he said。 Out of that realization grew resolutions that needed no vowing or pledging; for as simply as a man turns from one road to another he turned from his habit into healthy…minded work。 '1' Jack London's 〃John Barleycorn。〃
  The other was an essentially healthy…minded man but he loved joviality; freedom and good fellowship。 Without ever knowing how he came to it; he found himself a confirmed drinker; holding an inferior place; passed by men of lesser caliber。 He struggled fitfully but always slipped when the next 〃good fellow〃 slapped him on the back and invited him to have a drink。 One day he stepped out of a barroom with a group of his cronies; and though he walked straight there was a reckless; happy feeling in him that pushed him on to his folly。 A young lady standing on a street corner waiting for a car caught his eye。 Signaling to his companions; he walked up to her; put his arms around her and kissed her。 The girl stood as if petrified; then she pushed him off and looked him up and down deliberately with cold scorn in her eyes。 Then she took off her glove and slapped him across the face with it; as if disdaining to use her hand。 With that she walked away。 The man was a gentleman; and he stood there stricken。 The laugh of his companions aroused him。 He saw them as if they were himself; with a horror and disgust that made him suddenly run away from them。 〃From that moment I never again had the slightest desire for drink。 The slap sobered me for good。〃 While these conversions occur now and then there are certain practical points in the breaking of a habit that need attention in each case。 In the first place it is best in the majority of instances to avoid the particular stimuli and associations that set off the habit。 The stimulus is a kind of trigger; pull it and the habit can hardly be checked。 Whatever the situation is that acts as the temptation; avoid it。 Not for nothing do men pray; 〃Lead us not into temptation。〃 The will needs no such exercise and rarely stands up well against such strain。 This may mean a removal for the time being from the source of temptation; a flying away to gain strength。 Further; a substitution of habit; of purpose; is necessary。 Some line of activities must be selected to fill in the vacuum。 A hobby is needed; a devotion to some larger purpose; whether it be in work or social activity。 〃Nature abhors a vacuum〃; boredom must be avoided; for that is a pain; awakening desire。 The gymnasium; golf; sports of all kinds are substitute pleasures of great value。 Third; harness a friend; a superior or a respected equal to the yoke with you。 Pull double harness; let him lend his strength to yours。 Throw away pride; confess and receive new energy from his sympathy and wisdom。 If you are lucky enough to have such a friend; or some wise counselor; thank God for him。 For here is where the true friend finds his highest value。 In the analysis of any character the question of the kind of habits formed demands attention。 Since almost all traits become matters of habit; such an inquiry would sooner or later lead to a catalogue of qualities。 What is here pertinent is this;that one might inquire into the kind of habits that are easily formed by the individual and the kind that are not。 Habits fall into groups such as these: 1。 Relating to care of the body: cleanliness; diet; exercise; bowel function; sleep。 Here we learn about personal tidiness or the reverse; foppery; dandyism; gluttony; asceticism; etc。 2。 Relating to method; efficiency; neatness in work: some people find it almost impossible to become methodical or neat; others become obsessed by these qualities to the exclusion of mobility。 3。 Relating to the pursuit of pleasure: type of pleasure sought; time given to it; hobbies。 4。 Relating to special habits: alcohol; tobacco; drugs; sex perversions。 5。 Relating to study and advancement: l