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打死也不说 更新:2021-02-20 14:21 字数:9322
must practise to deceive him; will render her the most contemptible of human beings; and at any rate; the contrivances necessary to preserve appearances; will keep her mind in that childish or vicious tumult which destroys all its energy。 Besides; in time; like those people who habitually take cordials to raise their spirits; she will want an intrigue to give life to her thoughts; having lost all relish for pleasures that are not highly seasoned by hope or fear。 Sometimes married women act still more audaciously; I will mention an instance。 A woman of quality; notorious for her gallantries; though as she still lived with her husband; nobody chose to place her in the class where she ought to have been placed; made a point of treating with the most insulting contempt a poor timid creature; abashed by a sense of her former weakness; whom a neighbouring gentleman had seduced and afterwards married。 This woman had actually confounded virtue with reputation; and; I do believe; valued herself on the propriety of her behaviour before marriage; though when once settled; to the satisfaction of her family; she and her lord were equally faithlessso that the half alive heir to an immense estate came from heaven knows where! To view this subject in another light。 I have known a number of women who; if they did not love their husbands; loved nobody else; giving themselves entirely up to vanity and dissipation; neglecting every domestic duty; nay; even squandering away all the money which should have been saved for their helpless younger children; yet have plumed themselves on their unsullied reputation; as if the whole compass of their duty as wives and mothers was only to preserve it。 Whilst other indolent women; neglecting every personal duty; have thought that they deserved their husband's affection; because they acted in this respect with propriety。 Weak minds are always fond of resting in the ceremonials of duty; but morality offers much simpler motives; and it were to be wished that superficial moralists had said less respecting behaviour; and outward observances; for unless virtue; of any kind; is built on knowledge; it will only produce a kind of insipid decency。 Respect for the opinion of the world; has; however; been termed the principal duty of woman in the most express words; for Rousseau declares; 〃that reputation is no less indispensable than chastity。〃 〃A man;〃 adds he; 〃secure in his own good conduct; depends only on himself; and may brave the public opinion; but a woman; in behaving well; performs but half her duty; as what is thought of her; is as important to her as what she really is。 It follows hence; that the system of a woman's education should; in this respect; be directly contrary to that of ours。 Opinion is the grave of virtue among the men; but its throne among women。〃 It is strictly logical to infer; that the virtue that rests on opinion is merely worldly; and that it is the virtue of a being to whom reason has been denied。 But; even with respect to the opinion of the world; I am convinced; that this class of reasoners are mistaken。 This regard for reputation; independent of its being one of the natural rewards of virtue; however; took its rise from a cause that I have already deplored as the grand source of female depravity; the impossibility of regaining respectability by a return to virtue; though men preserve theirs during the indulgence of vice。 It was natural for women then to endeavour to preserve what once lostwas lost for ever; till this care swallowing up every other care; reputation for chastity; became the one thing needful to the sex。 But vain is the scrupulosity of ignorance; for neither religion nor virtue; when they reside in the heart; require such a puerile attention to mere ceremonies; because the behaviour must; upon the whole be proper; when the motive is pure。 To support my opinion I can produce very respectable authority; and the authority of a cool reasoner ought to have weight to enforce consideration; though not to establish a sentiment。 Speaking of the general laws of morality; Dr。 Smith observes〃That by some very extraordinary and unlucky circumstance; a good man may come to be suspected of a crime of which he was altogether incapable; and upon that account be most unjustly exposed for the remaining part of his life to the horror and aversion of mankind。 By an accident of this kind he may be said to lose his all; notwithstanding his integrity and justice; in the same manner as a cautious man; notwithstanding his utmost circumspection; may be ruined by an earthquake or an inundation。 Accidents of the first kind; however; are perhaps still more rare; and still more contrary to the common course of things than those of the second; and it still remains true; that the practice of truth; justice and humanity; is a certain and almost infallible method of acquiring what those virtues chiefly aim at; the confidence and love of those we live with。 A person may be easily misrepresented with regard to a particular action; but it is scarcely possible that he should be so with regard to the general tenor of his conduct。 An innocent man may be believed to have done wrong: this; however; will rarely happen。 On the contrary; the established opinion of the innocence of his manners will often lead us to absolve him where he has really been in the fault; notwithstanding very strong presumptions。〃 I perfectly coincide in opinion with this writer; for I verily believe; that few of either sex were ever despised for certain vices without deserving to be despised。 I speak not of the calumny of the moment; which hangs over a character; like one of the dense fogs of November over this metropolis; till it gradually subsides before the common light of day; I only contend; that the daily conduct of the majority prevails to stamp their character with the impression of truth。 Quietly does the clear light; shining day after day; refute the ignorant surmise; or malicious tale; which has thrown dirt on a pure character。 A false light distorted; for a short time; its shadowreputation; but it seldom fails to become just when the cloud is dispersed that produced the mistake in vision。 Many people; undoubtedly in several respects; obtain a better reputation than; strictly speaking; they deserve; for unremitting industry will mostly reach its goal in all races。 They who only strive for this paltry prize; like the Pharisees; who prayed at the corners of streets; to be seen of men; verily obtain the reward they seek; for the heart of man cannot be read by man! Still the fair fame that is naturally reflected by good actions; when the man is only employed to direct his steps aright; regardless of the lookers…on; is in general; not only more true but more sure。 There are; it is true; trials when the good man must appeal to God from the injustice of man; and amidst the whining candour or hissing of envy; erect a pavilion in his own mind to retire to; till the rumour be overpast; nay; the darts of undeserved censure may pierce an innocent tender bosom through with many sorrows; but these are all exceptions to general rules。 And it is according to these common laws that human behaviour ought to be regulated。 The eccentric orbit of the comet never influences astronomical calculations respecting the invariable order established in the motion of the principal bodies of the solar system。 I will then venture to affirm; that after a man has arrived at maturity; the general outline of his character in the world is just; allowing for the before mentioned exceptions to the rule。 I do not say; that a prudent; worldly…wise man; with only negative virtues and qualities; may not sometimes obtain a smoother reputation than a wiser or a better man。 So far from it; that I am apt to conclude from experience; that where the virtue of two people is nearly equal; the most negative character will be liked best by the world at large; whilst the other may have more friends in private life。 But the hills and dales; clouds and sunshine; conspicuous in the virtues of great men; set off each other; and though they afford envious weakness a fairer mark to shoot at; the real character will still work its way to light; though bespattered by weak affection; or ingenious malice。* (*Footnote。 I allude to various biographical writings; but particularly to Boswell's Life of Johnson。) With respect to that anxiety to preserve a reputation hardly earned; which leads sagacious people to analyze it; I shall not make the obvious comment; but I am afraid that morality is very insidiously undermined; in the female world; by the attention being turned to the show instead of the substance。 A simple thing is thus made strangely complicated; nay; sometimes virtue and its shadow are set at variance。 We should never; perhaps; have heard of Lucretia; had she died to preserve her chastity instead of her reputation。 If we really deserve our own good opinion; we shall commonly be respected in the world; but if we pant after higher improvement and higher attainments; it is not sufficient to view ourselves as we suppose that we are viewed by others; though this has been ingeniously argued as the foundation of our moral sentiments。 (Smith。) Because each bystander may h