to　that　local　good…breeding　of　the　place　which　he　is　at。　　A　conformity
  and　flexibility　of　manners　is　necessary　in　the　course　of　the　world；　that
  is；　with　regard　to　all　things　which　are　not　wrong　in　themselves。　　The
  'versatile　ingenium'　is　the　most　useful　of　all。　　It　can　turn　itself
  instantly　from　one　object　to　another；　assuming　the　proper　manner　for
  each。　　It　can　be　serious　with　the　grave；　cheerful　with　the　gay；　and
  trifling　with　the　frivolous。　　Endeavor　by　all　means；　to　acquire　this
  talent；　for　it　is　a　very　great　one。
  As　I　hardly　know　anything　more　useful；　than　to　see；　from　time　to　time；
  pictures　of　one's　self　drawn　by　different　hands；　I　send　you　here　a　sketch
  of　yourself；　drawn　at　Lausanne；　while　you　were　there；　and　sent　over　here
  by　a　person　who　little　thought　that　it　would　ever　fall　into　my　hands：　and
  indeed　it　was　by　the　greatest　accident　in　the　world　that　it　did。
  LETTER　XVI
  LONDON；　October　9；　O。　S。　　1747。
  DEAR　BOY：　People　of　your　age　have；　commonly；　an　unguarded　frankness　about
  them；　which　makes　them　the　easy　prey　and　bubbles　of　the　artful　and　the
  experienced；　they　look　upon　every　knave　or　fool；　who　tells　them　that　he
  is　their　friend；　to　be　really　so；　and　pay　that　profession　of　simulated
  friendship；　with　an　indiscreet　and　unbounded　confidence；　always　to　their
  loss；　often　to　their　ruin。　　Beware；　therefore；　now　that　you　are　coming
  into　the　world；　of　these　preferred　friendships。　　Receive　them　with　great
  civility；　but　with　great　incredulity　too；　and　pay　them　with　compliments；
  but　not　with　confidence。　　Do　not　let　your　vanity　and　self…love　make　you
  suppose　that　people　become　your　friends　at　first　sight；　or　even　upon　a
  short　acquaintance。　　Real　friendship　is　a　slow　grower　and　never　thrives
  unless　engrafted　upon　a　stock　of　known　and　reciprocal　merit。　　There　is
  another　kind　of　nominal　friendship　among　young　people；　which　is　warm　for
  the　time；　but　by　good　luck；　of　short　duration。　　This　friendship　is
  hastily　produced；　by　their　being　accidentally　thrown　together；　and
  pursuing　the　course　of　riot　and　debauchery。　　A　fine　friendship；　truly；
  and　well　cemented　by　drunkenness　and　lewdness。　　It　should　rather　be
  called　a　conspiracy　against　morals　and　good　manners；　and　be　punished　as
  such　by　the　civil　magistrate。　　However；　they　have　the　impudence　and　folly
  to　call　this　confederacy　a　friendship。　　They　lend　one　another　money；
  for　bad　purposes；　they　engage　in　quarrels；　offensive　and　defensive　for
  their　accomplices；　they　tell　one　another　all　they　know；　and　often　more
  too；　when；　of　a　sudden；　some　accident　disperses　them；　and　they　think　no
  more　of　each　other；　unless　it　be　to　betray　and　laugh；　at　their　imprudent
  confidence。　　Remember　to　make　a　great　difference　between　companions　and
  friends；　for　a　very　complaisant　and　agreeable　companion　may；　and　often
  does；　prove　a　very　improper　and　a　very　dangerous　friend。　　People　will；
  in　a　great　degree；　and　not　without　reason；　form　their　opinion　of　you；
  upon　that　which　they　have　of　your　friends；　and　there　is　a　Spanish
  proverb；　which　says　very　justly；　TELL　ME　WHO　YOU　LIVE　WITH　AND　I　WILL
  TELL　YOU　WHO　YOU　ARE。　　One　may　fairly　suppose；　that　the　man　who　makes　a
  knave　or　a　fool　his　friend；　has　something　very　bad　to　do　or　to　conceal。
  But；　at　the　same　time　that　you　carefully　decline　the　friendship　of　knaves
  and　fools；　if　it　can　be　called　friendship；　there　is　no　occasion　to　make
  either　of　them　your　enemies；　wantonly　and　unprovoked；　for　they　are
  numerous　bodies：　and　I；　would　rather　choose　a　secure　neutrality；　than
  alliance；　or　war　with　either　of　them。　　You　may　be　a　declared　enemy　to
  their　vices　and　follies；　without　being　marked　out　by　them　as　a　personal
  one。　　Their　enmity　is　the　next　dangerous　thing　to　their　friendship。
  Have　a　real　reserve　with　almost　everybody；　and　have　a　seeming　reserve
  with　almost　nobody；　for　it　is　very　disagreeable　to　seem　reserved；　and
  very　dangerous　not　to　be　so。　　Few　people　find　the　true　medium；　many　are
  ridiculously　mysterious　and　reserved　upon　trifles；　and　many　imprudently
  communicative　of　all　they　know。
  The　next　thing　to　the　choice　of　your　friends；　is　the　choice　of　your
  company。　　Endeavor；　as　much　as　you　can；　to　keep　company　with　people　above
  you：　there　you　rise；　as　much　as　you　sink　with　people　below　you；　for　（as　I
  have　mentioned　before）　you　are　whatever　the　company　you　keep　is。　　Do　not
  mistake；　when　I　say　company　above　you；　and　think　that　I　mean　with　regard
  to；　their　birth：　that　is　the　least　consideration；　but　I　mean　with　regard
  to　their　merit；　and　the　light　in　which　the　world　considers　them。
  There　are　two　sorts　of　good　company；　one；　which　is　called　the　beau　monde；
  and　consists　of　the　people　who　have　the　lead　in　courts；　and　in　the　gay
  parts　of　life；　the　other　consists　of　those　who　are　distinguished　by　some
  peculiar　merit；　or　who　excel　in　some　particular　and　valuable　art　or
  science。　　For　my　own　part；　I　used　to　think　myself　in　company　as；　much
  above　me；　when　I　was　with　Mr。　Addison　and　Mr。　Pope；　as　if　I　had　been　with
  all　the　princes　in　Europe。　　What　I　mean　by　low　company；　which　should　by
  all　means　be　avoided；　is　the　company　of　those；　who；　absolutely
  insignificant　and　contemptible　in　themselves；　think　they　are　honored　by
  being　in　your　company；　and　who　flatter　every　vice　and　every　folly　you
  have；　in　order　to　engage　you　to　converse　with　them。　　The　pride　of　being
  the　first　of　the　company　is　but　too　common；　but　it　is　very　silly；　and
  very　prejudicial。　　Nothing　in　the　world　lets　down　a　character　quicker
  than　that　wrong　turn。
  You　may　possibly　ask　me；　whether　a　man　has　it　always　in　his　power　to　get
  the　best　company？　and　how？　　I　say；　Yes；　he　has；　by　deserving　it；
  providing　he　is　but　in　circumstances　which　enable　him　to　appear　upon　the
  footing　of　a　gentleman。　　Merit　and　good…breeding　will　make　their　way
  everywhere。　　Knowledge　will　introduce　him；　and　good…breeding　will　endear
  him　to　the　best　companies：　for；　as　I　have　often　told　you；　politeness　and
  good…breeding　are　absolutely　necessary　to　adorn　any；　or　all　other　good
  qualities　or　talents。　　Without　them；　no　knowledge；　no　perfection
  whatever；　is　seen　in　its　best　light。　　The　scholar；　without　good…breeding；
  is　a　pedant；　the　philosopher；　a　cynic；　the　soldier；　a　brute；　and　every
  man　disagreeable。
  I　long　to　hear；　from　my　several　correspondents　at　Leipsig；　of　your
  arrival　there；　and　what　impression　you　make　on　them　at　first；　for　I　have
  Arguses；　with　an　hundred　eyes　each；　who　will　watch　you　narrowly；　and
  relate　to　me　faithfully。　　My　accounts　will　certainly　be　true；　it　depends
  upon　you；　entirely；　of　what　kind　they　shall　be。　　Adieu。
  LETTER　XVII
  LONDON；　October　16；　O。　S。　　1747
  DEAR　BOY：　The　art　of　pleasing　is　a　very　necessary　one　to　possess；　but　a
  very　difficult　one　to　acquire。　　It　can　hardly　be　reduced　to　rules；　and
  your　own　good　sense　and　observation　will　teach　you　more　of　it　than　I　can。
  Do　as　you　would　be　done　by；　is　the　surest　method　that　I　know　of　pleasing。
  Observe　carefully　what　pleases　you　in　others；　and　probably　the　same　thing
  in　you　will　please　others。　　If　you　are　pleased　with　the　complaisance　and
  attention　of　others　to　your　humors；　your　tastes；　or　your　weaknesses；
  depend　upon　it　the　same　complaisance　and　attention；　on　your　part　to
  theirs；　will　equally　please　them。　Take　the　tone　of　the　company　that　you
  are　in；　and　do　not　pretend　to　give　it；　be　serious；　gay；　or　even　trifling；
  as　you　find　the　present　humor　of　the　company；　this　is　an　attention　due
  from　every　individual　to　the　majority。　　Do　not　tell　stories　in　company；
  there　is　nothing　more　tedious　and　disagreeable；　if　by　chance　you　know　a
  very　short　story；　and　exceedingly　applicable　to　the　present　subject　of
  conversation；　tell　it　in　as　few　words　as　possible；　and　even　then；　throw
  out　that　you　do　not　love　to　tell　stories；　but　that　the　shortness　of　it
  tempted　you。　　Of　all　things；　banish　the　egotism　out　of　your　conversation；
  and　never　think　of　entertaining　people　with　your　own　personal　concerns；
  or　private；　affairs；　though　they　are　interesting　to　you；　they　are　tedious
  and　impertinent　to　everybody　else；　besides　that；　one　cannot　keep　one's
  own　private　affairs　too　secret。　　Whatever　you　think　your　own　excellencies
  may　be；　do　not　affectedly　display　them　in　company；　nor　labor；　as　many
  people　do；　to　give　that　turn　to　the　conversation；　which　may　supply　you
  with　an　opportunity　of　exhibiting　them。　　If　they　are　real；　they　will
  infallibly　be　discovered；　without　your　pointing　them　out　yourself；　and
  with　much　more　advantage。　　Never　maintain　an　argument　with　heat　and
  clamor；　though　you　think　or　know　yourself　to　be　in　the　right：　but　give
  your　opinion　modestly　and　coolly；　which　is　the　only　way　to　convince；
  and；　if　that　does　not　do；　try　to　change　the　conversation；　by　saying；
  with　good　humor；　〃We　shall　hardly　convince　one　another；　nor　is　it
  necessary　that　we　should；　so　let　us　talk　of　something　else。〃
  Remember　that　there　is　a　local　propriety　to　be　observed　in　all　companies；
  and　that　what　is　extremely　proper　in　one　company；　may　be；　and　often　is；
  highly　improper　in　another。
  The　jokes；　the　'bonmots；'　the　little　adventures；　which　may　do　very　well
  in　one　company；　will　seem　flat　and　tedious；　when　related　in　another。
  The　particular　characters；　the　habits；　the　cant　of　one　company；　may　give