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  (9) Fuller; the Church historian; with his usual homely mother…wit;
  speaking of the choice of a wife; said briefly; 〃Take the daughter
  of a good mother。〃
  (10) She was an Englishwomana Miss Motley。  It maybe mentioned that
  amongst other distinguished Frenchmen who have married English
  wives; were Sismondi; Alfred de Vigny; and Lamartine。
  (11) 〃Plus je roule dans ce monde; et plus je suis amene a penser
  qu'il n'y a que le bonheur domestique qui signifie quelque chose。〃
  OEUVRES ET CORRESPONDENCE。
  (12) De Tocqueville's 'Memoir and Remains;' vol。 i。 p。 408。
  (13) De Tocqueville's 'Memoir and Remains;' vol。 ii。 p。 48。
  (14) Colonel Hutchinson was an uncompromising republican; thoroughly
  brave; highminded; and pious。  At the Restoration; he was
  discharged from Parliament; and from all offices of state for
  ever。  He retired to his estate at Owthorp; near Nottingham; but
  was shortly after arrested and imprisoned in the Tower。  From
  thence he was removed to Sandown Castle; near Deal; where he lay
  for eleven months; and died on September 11th; 1664。  The wife
  petitioned for leave to share his prison; but was refused。  When
  he felt himself dying; knowing the deep sorrow which his death
  would occasion to his wife; he left this message; which was
  conveyed to her: 〃Let her; as she is above other women; show
  herself on this occasion a good Christian; and above the pitch of
  ordinary women。〃  Hence the wife's allusion to her husband's
  〃command〃 in the above passage。
  (15) Mrs。 Lucy Hutchinson to her children concerning their father:
  'Memoirs of the Life of Col。 Hutchinson' (Bohn's Ed。); pp。 29…30。
  (16) On the Declaration of American Independence; the first John Adams;
  afterwards President of the United States; bought a copy of the
  'Life and Letters of Lady Russell;' and presented it to his wife;
  〃with an express intent and desire〃 (as stated by himself); 〃that
  she should consider it a mirror in which to contemplate herself;
  for; at that time; I thought it extremely probable; from the
  daring and dangerous career I was determined to run; that she
  would one day find herself in the situation of Lady Russell; her
  husband without a head:〃 Speaking of his wife in connection with
  the fact; Mr。 Adams added: 〃Like Lady Russell; she never; by word
  or look; discouraged me from running all hazards for the salvation
  of my country's liberties。  She was willing to share with me; and
  that her children should share with us both; in all the dangerous
  consequences we had to hazard。〃
  (17) 'Memoirs of the Life of Sir Samuel Romily;' vol。 i。 p。 41。
  (18) It is a singular circumstance that in the parish church of
  St。 Bride; Fleet Street; there is a tablet on the wall with an
  inscription to the memory of Isaac Romilly; F。R。S。; who died in
  1759; of a broken heart; seven days after the decease of a
  beloved wifeCHAMBERS' BOOK OF DAYS; vol。 ii。 p。 539。
  (19) Mr。 Frank Buckland says 〃During the long period that Dr。
  Buckland was engaged in writing the book which I now have the
  honour of editing; my mother sat up night after night; for weeks
  and months consecutively; writing to my father's dictation; and
  this often till the sun's rays; shining through the shutters at
  early morn; warned the husband to cease from thinking; and the
  wife to rest her weary hand。  Not only with her pen did she
  render material assistance; but her natural talent in the use
  of her pencil enabled her to give accurate illustrations and
  finished drawings; many of which are perpetuated in Dr。 Buckland's
  works。  She was also particularly clever and neat in mending
  broken fossils; and there are many specimens in the Oxford Museum;
  now exhibiting their natural forms and beauty; which were restored
  by her perseverance to shape from a mass of broken and almost
  comminuted fragments。〃
  (20) Veitch's 'Memoirs of Sir William Hamilton。'
  (21) The following extract from Mr。 Veitch's biography will give
  one an idea of the extraordinary labours of Lady Hamilton; to
  whose unfailing devotion to the service of her husband the world
  of intellect has been so much indebted: 〃The number of pages
  in her handwriting;〃 says Mr。 Veitch;〃filled with abstruse
  metaphysical matter; original and quoted; bristling with
  proportional and syllogistic formulaethat are still preserved;
  is perfectly marvellous。  Everything that was sent to the press;
  and all the courses of lectures; were written by her; either to
  dictation; or from a copy。  This work she did in the truest spirit
  of love and devotion。  She had a power; moreover; of keeping her
  husband up to what he had to do。  She contended wisely against a
  sort of energetic indolence which characterised him; and which;
  while he was always labouring; made him apt to put aside the task
  actually before himsometimes diverted by subjects of inquiry
  suggested in the course of study on the matter in hand; sometimes
  discouraged by the difficulty of reducing to order the immense
  mass of materials he had accumulated in connection with it。  Then
  her resolution and cheerful disposition sustained and refreshed
  him; and never more so than when; during the last twelve years of
  his life; his bodily strength was broken; and his spirit; though
  languid; yet ceased not from mental toil。  The truth is; that Sir
  William's marriage; his comparatively limited circumstances; and
  the character of his wife; supplied to a nature that would have
  been contented to spend its mighty energies in work that brought
  no reward but in the doing of it; and that might never have been
  made publicly known or available; the practical force and impulse
  which enabled him to accomplish what he actually did in literature
  and philosophy。  It was this influence; without doubt; which saved
  him from utter absorption in his world of rare; noble; and
  elevated; but ever…increasingly unattainable ideas。  But for it;
  the serene sea of abstract thought might have held him becalmed
  for life; and in the absence of all utterance of definite
  knowledge of his conclusions; the world might have been left to an
  ignorant and mysterious wonder about the unprofitable scholar。〃
  CHAPTER XIITHE DISCIPLINE OF EXPERIENCE。
  〃I would the great would grow like thee。
  Who grewest not alone in power
  And knowledge; but by year and hour
  In reverence and in charity。〃TENNYSON。
  〃Not to be unhappy is unhappynesse;
  And misery not t'have known miserie;
  For the best way unto discretion is
  The way that leades us by adversitie;
  And men are better shew'd what is amisse;
  By th'expert finger of calamitie;
  Than they can be with all that fortune brings;
  Who never shewes them the true face of things。〃DANIEL。
  〃A lump of wo affliction is;
  Yet thence I borrow lumps of bliss;
  Though few can see a blessing in't;
  It is my furnace and my mint。〃
  ERSKINE'S GOSPEL SONNETS。
  〃Crosses grow anchors; bear as thou shouldst so
  Thy cross; and that cross grows an anchor too。〃DONNE。
  〃Be the day weary; or be the day long;
  At length it ringeth to Evensong。〃ANCIENT COUPLET。
  Practical wisdom is only to be learnt in the school of experience。
  Precepts and instructions are useful so far as they go; but;
  without the discipline of real life; they remain of the nature of
  theory only。  The hard facts of existence have to be faced; to
  give that touch of truth to character which can never be imparted
  by reading or tuition; but only by contact with the broad
  instincts of common men and women。
  To be worth anything; character must be capable of standing firm
  upon its feet in the world of daily work; temptation; and trial;
  and able to bear the wear…and…tear of actual life。  Cloistered
  virtues do not count for much。  The life that rejoices in solitude
  may be only rejoicing in selfishness。  Seclusion may indicate
  contempt for others; though more usually it means indolence;
  cowardice; or self…indulgence。  To every human being belongs his
  fair share of manful toil and human duty; and it cannot be shirked
  without loss to the individual himself; as well as to the
  community to which he belongs。  It is only by mixing in the daily
  life of the world; and taking part in its affairs; that practical
  knowledge can be acquired; and wisdom learnt。  It is there that we
  find our chief sphere of duty; that we learn the discipline of
  work; and that we educate ourselves in that patience; diligence;
  and endurance which shape and consolidate the character。  There we
  encounter the difficulties; trials; and temptations which;
  according as we deal with them; give a colour to our entire after…
  life; and there; too; we become subject to the great discipline of
  suffering; from which we learn far more than from the safe
  seclusion of the study or the cloister。
  Contact with others is also requisit