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street; or at home。 The civil workman will exercise increased
power amongst his class; and gradually induce them to imitate him
by his persistent steadiness; civility; and kindness。 Thus
Benjamin Franklin; when a working…man; is said to have reformed
the habits of an entire workshop。
One may be polite and gentle with very little money in his purse。
Politeness goes far; yet costs nothing。 It is the cheapest of all
commodities。 It is the humblest of the fine arts; yet it is so
useful and so pleasure…giving; that it might almost be ranked
amongst the humanities。
Every nation may learn something of others; and if there be one
thing more than another that the English working…class might
afford to copy with advantage from their Continental neighbours;
it is their politeness。 The French and Germans; of even the
humblest classes; are gracious in manner; complaisant; cordial;
and well…bred。 The foreign workman lifts his cap and respectfully
salutes his fellow…workman in passing。 There is no sacrifice of
manliness in this; but grace and dignity。 Even the lowest poverty
of the foreign workpeople is not misery; simply because it is
cheerful。 Though not receiving one…half the income which our
working…classes do; they do not sink into wretchedness and drown
their troubles in drink; but contrive to make the best of life;
and to enjoy it even amidst poverty。
Good taste is a true economist。 It may be practised on small
means; and sweeten the lot of labour as well as of ease。 It is
all the more enjoyed; indeed; when associated with industry and
the performance of duty。 Even the lot of poverty is elevated
by taste。 It exhibits itself in the economies of the household。
It gives brightness and grace to the humblest dwelling。 It
produces refinement; it engenders goodwill; and creates an
atmosphere of cheerfulness。 Thus good taste; associated with
kindliness; sympathy; and intelligence; may elevate and
adorn even the lowliest lot。
The first and best school of manners; as of character; is always
the Home; where woman is the teacher。 The manners of society at
large are but the reflex of the manners of our collective homes;
neither better nor worse。 Yet; with all the disadvantages of
ungenial homes; men may practise self…culture of manner as of
intellect; and learn by good examples to cultivate a graceful and
agreeable behaviour towards others。 Most men are like so many
gems in the rough; which need polishing by contact with other and
better natures; to bring out their full beauty and lustre。 Some
have but one side polished; sufficient only to show the delicate
graining of the interior; but to bring out the full qualities of
the gem needs the discipline of experience; and contact with the
best examples of character in the intercourse of daily life。
A good deal of the success of manner consists in tact; and it is
because women; on the whole; have greater tact than men; that they
prove its most influential teachers。 They have more self…
restraint than men; and are naturally more gracious and polite。
They possess an intuitive quickness and readiness of action; have
a keener insight into character; and exhibit greater
discrimination and address。 In matters of social detail; aptness
and dexterity come to them like nature; and hence well…mannered
men usually receive their best culture by mixing in the society of
gentle and adroit women。
Tact is an intuitive art of manner; which carries one through a
difficulty better than either talent or knowledge。 〃Talent;〃 says
a public writer; 〃is power: tact is skill。 Talent is weight: tact
is momentum。 Talent knows what to do: tact knows how to do it。
Talent makes a man respectable: tact makes him respected。 Talent
is wealth: tact is ready…money。〃
The difference between a man of quick tact and of no tact whatever
was exemplified in an interview which once took place between Lord
Palmerston and Mr。 Behnes; the sculptor。 At the last sitting
which Lord Palmerston gave him; Behnes opened the conversation
with〃Any news; my Lord; from France? How do we stand with
Louis Napoleon?〃 The Foreign Secretary raised his eyebrows for an
instant; and quietly replied; 〃Really; Mr。 Behnes; I don't know: I
have not seen the newspapers!〃 Poor Behnes; with many excellent
qualities and much real talent; was one of the many men who
entirely missed their way in life through want of tact。
Such is the power of manner; combined with tact; that Wilkes; one
of the ugliest of men; used to say; that in winning the graces of
a lady; there was not more than three days' difference between him
and the handsomest man in England。
But this reference to Wilkes reminds us that too much importance
must not be attached to manner; for it does not afford any genuine
test of character。 The well…mannered man may; like Wilkes; be
merely acting a part; and that for an immoral purpose。 Manner;
like other fine arts; gives pleasure; and is exceedingly agreeable
to look upon; but it may be assumed as a disguise; as men 〃assume
a virtue though they have it not。〃 It is but the exterior sign of
good conduct; but may be no more than skin…deep。 The most highly…
polished person may be thoroughly depraved in heart; and his
superfine manners may; after all; only consist in pleasing
gestures and in fine phrases。
On the other hand; it must be acknowledged that some of the
richest and most generous natures have been wanting in the graces
of courtesy and politeness。 As a rough rind sometimes covers the
sweetest fruit; so a rough exterior often conceals a kindly and
hearty nature。 The blunt man may seem even rude in manner; and
yet; at heart; be honest; kind; and gentle。
John Knox and Martin Luther were by no means distinguished for
their urbanity。 They had work to do which needed strong and
determined rather than well…mannered men。 Indeed; they were both
thought to be unnecessarily harsh and violent in their manner。
〃And who art thou;〃 said Mary Queen of Scots to Knox; 〃that
presumest to school the nobles and sovereign of this realm?〃
〃Madam;〃 replied Knox; 〃a subject born within the same。〃 It is
said that his boldness; or roughness; more than once made Queen
Mary weep。 When Regent Morton heard of this; he said; 〃Well; 'tis
better that women should weep than bearded men。〃
As Knox was retiring from the Queen's presence on one occasion; he
overheard one of the royal attendants say to another; 〃He is not
afraid!〃 Turning round upon them; he said: 〃And why should the
pleasing face of a gentleman frighten me? I have looked on the
faces of angry men; and yet have not been afraid beyond measure。〃
When the Reformer; worn…out by excess of labour and anxiety; was
at length laid to his rest; the Regent; looking down into the open
grave; exclaimed; in words which made a strong impression from
their aptness and truth〃There lies he who never feared the
face of man!〃
Luther also was thought by some to be a mere compound of violence
and ruggedness。 But; as in the case of Knox; the times in which
he lived were rude and violent; and the work he had to do could
scarcely have been accomplished with gentleness and suavity。 To
rouse Europe from its lethargy; he had to speak and to write with
force; and even vehemence。 Yet Luther's vehemence was only in
words。 His apparently rude exterior covered a warm heart。 In
private life he was gentle; loving; and affectionate。 He was
simple and homely; even to commonness。 Fond of all common
pleasures and enjoyments; he was anything but an austere man; or a
bigot; for he was hearty; genial; and even 〃jolly。〃 Luther was
the common people's hero in his lifetime; and he remains so in
Germany to this day。
Samuel Johnson was rude and often gruff in manner。 But he had
been brought up in a rough school。 Poverty in early life had made
him acquainted with strange companions。 He had wandered in the
streets with Savage for nights together; unable between them to
raise money enough to pay for a bed。 When his indomitable courage
and industry at length secured for him a footing in society; he
still bore upon him the scars of his early sorrows and struggles。
He was by nature strong and robust; and his experience made him
unaccommodating and self…asserting。 When he was once asked why he
was not invited to dine out as Garrick was; he answered; 〃Because
great lords and ladies did not like to have their mouths stopped;〃
and Johnson was a notorious mouth…stopper; though what he said was
always worth listening to。
Johnson's companions spoke of him as 〃Ursa Major;〃 but; as
Goldsmith generously said of him; 〃No man alive has a more tender
heart; he has nothing of the bear about him but his skin。〃 The
kindliness of Johnson's nature was shown on one occasion by the
manner in which he assisted a supposed lady in crossing Fleet
Street。 He gave her his arm; and led h