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It has been said that men succeed in life quite as much by their
temper as by their talents。 However this may be; it is certain
that their happiness in life depends mainly upon their equanimity
of disposition; their patience and forbearance; and their kindness
and thoughtfulness for those about them。 It is really true what
Plato says; that in seeking the good of others we find our own。
There are some natures so happily constituted that they can find
good in everything。 There is no calamity so great but they can
educe comfort or consolation from itno sky so black but they
can discover a gleam of sunshine issuing through it from some
quarter or another; and if the sun be not visible to their eyes;
they at least comfort themselves with the thought that it IS
there; though veiled from them for some good and wise purpose。
Such happy natures are to be envied。 They have a beam in the eye
a beam of pleasure; gladness; religious cheerfulness;
philosophy; call it what you will。 Sunshine is about their
hearts; and their mind gilds with its own hues all that it looks
upon。 When they have burdens to bear; they bear them cheerfully
not repining; nor fretting; nor wasting their energies in useless
lamentation; but struggling onward manfully; gathering up such
flowers as lie along their path。
Let it not for a moment be supposed that men such as those we
speak of are weak and unreflective。 The largest and most
comprehensive natures are generally also the most cheerful; the
most loving; the most hopeful; the most trustful。 It is the wise
man; of large vision; who is the quickest to discern the moral
sunshine gleaming through the darkest cloud。 In present evil he
sees prospective good; in pain; he recognises the effort of nature
to restore health; in trials; he finds correction and discipline;
and in sorrow and suffering; he gathers courage; knowledge; and
the best practical wisdom。
When Jeremy Taylor had lost allwhen his house had been
plundered; and his family driven out…of…doors; and all his worldly
estate had been sequestratedhe could still write thus: 〃I am
fallen into the hands of publicans and sequestrators; and they
have taken all from me; what now? Let me look about me。 They
have left me the sun and moon; a loving wife; and many friends to
pity me; and some to relieve me; and I can still discourse; and;
unless I list; they have not taken away my merry countenance and
my cheerful spirit; and a good conscience; they have still left me
the providence of God; and all the promises of the Gospel; and my
religion; and my hopes of heaven; and my charity to them; too; and
still I sleep and digest; I eat and drink; I read and meditate。。。。
And he that hath so many causes of joy; and so great; is very much
in love with sorrow and peevishness; who loves all these
pleasures; and chooses to sit down upon his little handful
of thorns。〃 (1)
Although cheerfulness of disposition is very much a matter of
inborn temperament; it is also capable of being trained and
cultivated like any other habit。 We may make the best of life; or
we may make the worst of it; and it depends very much upon
ourselves whether we extract joy or misery from it。 There are
always two sides of life on which we can look; according as we
choosethe bright side or the gloomy。 We can bring the power of
the will to bear in making the choice; and thus cultivate the
habit of being happy or the reverse。 We can encourage the
disposition of looking at the brightest side of things; instead of
the darkest。 And while we see the cloud; let us not shut our eyes
to the silver lining。
The beam in the eye sheds brightness; beauty; and joy upon life in
all its phases。 It shines upon coldness; and warms it; upon
suffering; and comforts it; upon ignorance; and enlightens it;
upon sorrow; and cheers it。 The beam in the eye gives lustre to
intellect; and brightens beauty itself。 Without it the sunshine
of life is not felt; flowers bloom in vain; the marvels of heaven
and earth are not seen or acknowledged; and creation is but a
dreary; lifeless; soulless blank。
While cheerfulness of disposition is a great source of enjoyment
in life; it is also a great safeguard of character。 A devotional
writer of the present day; in answer to the question; How are we
to overcome temptations? says: 〃Cheerfulness is the first thing;
cheerfulness is the second; and cheerfulness is the third。〃 It
furnishes the best soil for the growth of goodness and virtue。 It
gives brightness of heart and elasticity of spirit。 It is the
companion of charity; the nurse of patience the mother of wisdom。
It is also the best of moral and mental tonics。 〃The best cordial
of all;〃 said Dr。 Marshall Hall to one of his patients; 〃is
cheerfulness。〃 And Solomon has said that 〃a merry heart doeth
good like a medicine。〃 When Luther was once applied to for a
remedy against melancholy; his advice was: 〃Gaiety and courage
innocent gaiety; and rational honourable courageare the best
medicine for young men; and for old men; too; for all men against
sad thoughts。〃 (2) Next to music; if not before it; Luther loved
children and flowers。 The great gnarled man had a heart as
tender as a woman's。
Cheerfulness is also an excellent wearing quality。 It has been
called the bright weather of the heart。 It gives harmony of soul;
and is a perpetual song without words。 It is tantamount to
repose。 It enables nature to recruit its strength; whereas worry
and discontent debilitate it; involving constant wear…and…tear。
How is it that we see such men as Lord Palmerston growing old in
harness; working on vigorously to the end? Mainly through
equanimity of temper and habitual cheerfulness。 They have
educated themselves in the habit of endurance; of not being easily
provoked; of bearing and forbearing; of hearing harsh and even
unjust things said of them without indulging in undue resentment;
and avoiding worreting; petty; and self…tormenting cares。 An
intimate friend of Lord Palmerston; who observed him closely for
twenty years; has said that he never saw him angry; with perhaps
one exception; and that was when the ministry responsible for the
calamity in Affghanistan; of which he was one; were unjustly
accused by their opponents of falsehood; perjury; and wilful
mutilation of public documents。
So far as can be learnt from biography; men of the greatest genius
have been for the most part cheerful; contented mennot eager
for reputation; money; or powerbut relishing life; and keenly
susceptible of enjoyment; as we find reflected in their works。
Such seem to have been Homer; Horace; Virgil; Montaigne;
Shakspeare; Cervantes。 Healthy serene cheerfulness is apparent in
their great creations。 Among the same class of cheerful…minded
men may also be mentioned Luther; More; Bacon; Leonardo da Vinci;
Raphael; and Michael Angelo。 Perhaps they were happy because
constantly occupied; and in the pleasantest of all workthat of
creating out of the fulness and richness of their great minds。
Milton; too; though a man of many trials and sufferings; must
have been a man of great cheerfulness and elasticity of nature。
Though overtaken by blindness; deserted by friends; and fallen
upon evil days〃darkness before and danger's voice behind〃
yet did he not bate heart or hope; but 〃still bore up and
steered right onward。〃
Henry Fielding was a man borne down through life by debt; and
difficulty; and bodily suffering; and yet Lady Mary Wortley
Montague has said of him that; by virtue of his cheerful
disposition; she was persuaded he 〃had known more happy moments
than any person on earth。〃
Dr。 Johnson; through all his trials and sufferings and hard fights
with fortune; was a courageous and cheerful…natured man。 He
manfully made the best of life; and tried to be glad in it。 Once;
when a clergyman was complaining of the dulness of society in the
country; saying 〃they only talk of runts〃 (young cows); Johnson
felt flattered by the observation of Mrs。 Thrale's mother; who
said; 〃Sir; Dr。 Johnson would learn to talk of runts〃meaning
that he was a man who would make the most of his situation;
whatever it was。
Johnson was of opinion that a man grew better as he grew older;
and that his nature mellowed with age。 This is certainly a much
more cheerful view of human nature than that of Lord Chesterfield;
who saw life through the eyes of a cynic; and held that 〃the heart
never grows better by age: it only grows harder。〃 But both
sayings may be true according to the point from which life is
viewed; and the temper by which a man is governed; for while the
good; profiting by experience; and disciplining themselves by
self…control; will grow better; the ill…conditioned; uninfluenced
by experience; will only grow worse。
Sir Walter Scott was a man full of the milk of human kindness。
Everybody loved him。